The SECOND FEAR is the secret (less apparent) fear. Of course your child wants to please you (not upset you), but it is the HOW she upsets you that is the issue.
The SECOND FEAR is that she just can't write perfect. I mean face it...if she could write something perfect, you'd never get upset. True? Honestly, it's not your fault. Schools have been messing this writing business up for many years...mostly because they are trying to teach writing instead of showing the student how to teach himself :-)
The theory in your child's head is that perfect is possible...and...it is possible on the first try. Of course, once you are committed to write perfectly on the first try, then you can't even form a couple of words! Now, add to this SECOND FEAR the realities of some learning challenges, lack of experience, and a swirling number of rules about grammar, spelling, punctuation, and story...and you'll see that she just feels hopeless. Learning by writing cannot happen when hopelessness reigns. I know you don't know me, but our homeschool Writing Course is specifically designed to cure these EXACT FEARS and more. It shows you how to teach kids to write, but it will also show them how to teach themselves to write as well.